How to remain positive

[bluseyboy]

any advice on how to stay positive thru this very hard time even the weather is bad?

[Bill]

bluseboy,

i know you are going to get a bunch of different responses and suggestions. but, as most of them will probably indicate, you are experience what you focus on.

yes, there are indeed changes occurring, as you can read the reasons why on this site in the various forums. how you perceive those changes is exactly that... how you perceive them.

so, i will ask an open-ended question, what is it that concerns you? and how might that be a reflection of what you are experiencing internally, whether you are aware of it or not?

[Nomadess 2012]

read uplifting books ... works for me. go to the spiritul section of the bookstore where's there's tons. also, i would stay away from the "news" as much as possible. its a total downer!! especially on network tv.

[Vermillion]

i have to agree with the reading books idea. any time i am down i read or watch things that make me laugh. remember, laughter is always a great way to raise your vibration a bit more.

try not to focus on the news and current events of the world... sure they are happening, but the more you focus on them the more they become your reality.

keep in mind, everything is an illusion and its really not there unless you make it there. try and have fun with the illusion and always remember that your own existance is based on perception.

be well,
you have my light.

[Rhonda]

hi bluseyboy, when you feel your solid "rock" moving, a feeling of unknowing, remind yourself that in these strong moments, life attempts to shake you to your core. the line is drawn, the internal battle is set, and the known feelings of doubt, worry and fear are present yet you only desire peace, joy and harmony.

hold yourself close, remind yourself that you are strong and power and you will get through this moment in life. replace the negative "thought" with special "thought" you dreamed and created for yourself.

write down your feelings to let them out. write down on some "post-it" pads some powerful "words" to help "balance" your feelings and thoughts.


any advice on how to stay positive thru this very hard time even the weather is bad?

* i can and i will
* i am strong and will get through this
* be patience and have faith
* life is not about the destination, but about the journey

also, take a walk in the sun, exercise, clean the garage or house, just keep busy, so you don't keep watering the same "feeling" that would hold you down... change up your routine.

and remember, to keep planning and dreaming, so you continue to create what you desire and want in your life.

peace and good will, bluseyboy

[ayadew]

when i feel down i try to get back to my roots.. when i had a psychic attack i re-read the first parts of the loo and reminded myself of what i wish to do in this existence.

[dazcox]

yeah, i listen to my dannion brinkley and david wilcock mp3's on a regular basis to stay in the moment and not succumb to seasonal depression.

[Jimbo]

any advice on how to stay positive thru this very hard time even the weather is bad?

stepping outside the box for just a moment, why does it seem desirable to psychologically occupy, statically, a polarized state, whether positive or negative? if you cannot "stay" neutral, elicit the flavor of neutrality by "staying" in motion, from positive to negative to positive to negative...reduce the degree of motion until you feel the balance.

but how do you reduce the degree of motion; how do you lessen the intensity of negativity or positivity? you can try polluting it with elements of the opposite polarity, recognizing the unreality of the good/bad dichotomy. for instance, what is "bad weather"? wind? rain? snow? anything that's not sunshine, right? that's the popular perception, anyway. when the wind is gusting 40 mph i think, "god, the trees love this! and i love to see the planet work its magic!" thunderstorms have always been my absolute favorite weather! the hot flash of lightning, the crack and roll of thunder, the rain washing through the air in waves; nothing makes me feel more a part of this planet! and the trees love it, too. :)

but, i don't know you. perhaps i would be as concerned as you seem to be if i hadn't had the lifetime of experience with self-discipline and exploration. since october of last year i've been unemployed after a 19-year career with a single company. my savings are almost exhausted. i will probably soon lose my house. bankruptcy may be my best option. but it doesn't really matter. as long as my life has a place in this world, i will persist. eventually, the earth will reclaim its property: this flesh. i don't begrudge this planet its prerogative to do so. even the life that animates this flesh is not really mine. but the soul i've forged will resist such dissolution (as it must); and the spirit that i am will persist (as it must), even between incarnations and beyond.

negativity? use it. positivity? use it. adopt a balance, and, from there, sink into your depth point, your center of gravity, in perfect silence. set your attitude, your course, by your own design. move in a balanced fashion if you don't want to fall down. and if you do fall down, get up again--unless you've got something better to do. enjoy gravity. ;)

[mmariebored]

you can always try changing your interpretation of the way you're feeling. instead of thinking of it as depression and a bad thing, see it as a purging of your soul and remember that without a little bit of sadness in your life, the pleasures would begin to mellow; we need the ebb and flow to survive in this body in this world. it was made that way.

[Babyblue]

positive mind speak is so important, and positive media, like david's mp3's.
nature and sun, healthy food, pure water and music.

turn off that tv, ignore the news. create reality every day how you want it to be, remember that you are responsible for this reality, this makes you feel in control and this brings happiness.

smile and sing and dance
babyblue x x x

[alchemikey]

put this video on repeat :)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5p6uu6m3cqk

peace,
mikey

[Art]

bluseyboy,

the advice you have gotten so far has been very good. there are many kind souls here that freely offer their love and energy. i would like to echo the following statements already posted:


negativity? use it. positivity? use it. adopt a balance, and, from there, sink into your depth point, your center of gravity, in perfect silence. set your attitude, your course, by your own design. move in a balanced fashion if you don't want to fall down. and if you do fall down, get up again--unless you've got something better to do. enjoy gravity.


you can always try changing your interpretation of the way you're feeling. instead of thinking of it as depression and a bad thing, see it as a purging of your soul and remember that without a little bit of sadness in your life, the pleasures would begin to mellow; we need the ebb and flow to survive in this body in this world. it was made that way.

i'm not sure i could phrase it any better. i used to get very upset with myself when i was down, but now realize there are important lessons to be learned while in these states.

the rough seas of catalyst can push any of us around, so don't feel weak for having difficulties coping. think of swimming against a rip tide; constantly fighting until you wear yourself out and drown. when all along, if you just go with the flow, you'll reach a spot where the strength of the current lessens and you can regain control, swim parallel to the shore, and get back safely.

in my experiences i've found that when i "ignore" these states and fight them, i end up wearing myself down, and my ability to recover is lessened. its a very difficult thing to do; balancing observation with experience, all the while seeking the lesson to be learned. but you'll get out of it.

i'd like to end with another snip from this thread


write down your feelings to let them out.

while this may seem very simple, it is a powerful exercise that will help speed the process. simply putting a name to an emotion and recognizing it lessens its impact.

good luck to you friend. know that you are not alone in struggling, and that if you ever need a little boost, there are more than enough here to help.

art

[Blacksunshine]

i call this time...the downward spiral. i hit it in february each year, but this year, it has been increasingly noticable. almost at times unbearable to get thru (of course i do, but i feel attachs and one time i couldnt' control it.) the air here is really bad, our atmosphere is a grayish purple, and it breaks my heart. it's a contstant of having to be completely conciencious of everything you do, and how it affects where we live.


so, every feb, i plan a "get away" not a vacation as i cant afford it, and my time here is mandatory. this year is moab. a quick trip, some hiking, some nature, some time with my family that is outside of chores, work, and typical life and expecially winter/inward stresses.

i wish that everyone could take a get away in winter. but perhaps see what can be done, especially if you live in a high inversion area, where even inhaililng feels like a negative action.

i'm planting my seeds (indoors) when i return from moab. this will make my soul warm up, even if it is still winter and smoggy out side. it also puts it so that when i do lay my garden outside, my seeds are developed little plants, ready for some growin love!!!

i agree with much that has been said here, read, love, share, laugh.

blessed be, love and light always,

[bluseyboy]

i am so touched by all your replies i dont know what to say but thanks! and most important i relize i am not alone :)
bluseyboy thats not so blue

[KassandraLoves]

i'd like to say this: create and sustain love inside of you. do not rely on things from an external source to keep the love flame lit. because once you realize that nothing can touch your inner love unless you let it, then you probably won't let it.

love and happiness is created strictly by you, not by "these chaotic times" or the "bad weather" or anything else. you generate it. you make the choice in letting something influence it.

remember how powerful and divine you are and smile! nothing or no one has the power to take that smile away but you, my dear friend. be a lighthouse in seemingly "tough times." others need to feel your inner light to remember this exact lesson also.

[Ewhaz]

depak came up with an interesting way of disengaging negative emotions.. ones that are ego in origin..

basically, just observing them. when your feeling them, your playing through them, but if you take a step back and just observe yourself, how you feel, whats going on inside you, it distances yourself from the issue and in many cases defuses it.

[Magical_Mongoose]

for me, alot of it seems to deal with firstly my emotional outlook, secondly the ammount of sleep i'm getting (around ~8 hours is a good dosage) and thirdly the ammount of nutrients/vitamins/sunlight as well. this time of year there definitely is a pronounced shift in neurochemistry due to less sunlight, but just get some more energy into yourself. dance, sing, write, whatever makes you feel like you're having a good time. also remember that this time of year was typically a time where people were bundled up together for a long period of time, sharing stories, teachings, etc. with their friends and family. socialize!! as everything was locked in ice and snow, things slowed down, and you lived mainly off of what you harvested during the fall, building upon the relationships you've formed.
reflective awareness of the self and of ones position before the coming cycle was in order, whereas we're stuck within a constant grasping for "breakthroughs" without accepting this point in the cycle as "laying the groundwork".
in other words, the emotional sensitivity, insight and strength that you're able to develop during these dark times can provide some of the greatest tools when the work of the spring calls you.
not that it's really of any solace, but it's summertime south of the equator ;) there's always "two sides of the same coin"/perspective/planet hehe...

[Vaughn]

i enjoy the bad days, but did end up moving finally to san diego, ca.
sometimes, go to the bookstores, volunteer into something you like.
invite some friends over for dinner, have a game nite. travel if you can. perhaps even more extreme do a life coach thing, see where you might need to change your life.
just a thought.
:)

[FooSnik]

i swear the duality of this world will rip me in two bloody halves one day. one paradox is that when we are depressed is when we really need to be around other people. but when we are most depressed is when we don't want to show our tired, sad faces. like that song, "nobody knows you when you're down and out", written by jimmy cox. but i truly feel that other people are the best remedy for the blues.

i find it ironic and funny that some of the happiest times of my life was when i was living in a halfway house. for those who don't know what a halfway house is, it is this:


a rehabilitation center where people who have left an institution, such as a hospital or prison, are helped to readjust to the outside world.

http://www.answers.com/topic/halfway-house


sure, it was filthy and we were all hooligans but it was great to live with a bunch of guys. and we all played cards or dominoes all night and talked about all sorts of stuff. i remember it fondly.

another of my happiest times of my life was summer camp for the same reason. because i lived with a whole bunch of people, like a tribe, for a week or so and it was great.

when i was a kid i had a large family and i was a happy kid. but i was the youngest by eight years and around the time my mom left my dad, all my siblings moved out as well and i found myself alone for the first time, which is when things started going down the crapper. thus began my tour through the dark side of life.

also, they have proven that when prisoners are locked up in solitary confinement for a period of time they begin to get manic depressive and go crazy. i think a huge chunk of the depression we all experience in this world is due to isolation. we are all isolated in our cars, ipods, computers, televisions, and apartments.

so i believe that human contact is as much an essential viamin as sunlight or green vegetables. and my advice to you, bluseyboy, would be go out and hang out with people. even if it means volunteering somewhere or something. i know it is hard to do because you don't feel sociable when you are depressed but it warms you up and makes you feel better. it did for me.

well good luck and cheers. :)

[kundalini]

i just want to thank the op for asking the question that i should have to the right people. also like to thank all the wonderful people who posted advice here that has helped pull me out of a deep depression.

as soon as i remember that i just need to alter my perception of things, stop blaming everything for my depression, then i snap out of it. but why is it i always forget this? someone said something about these things being like an ebb and flow. sometimes i get the feeling the veil ebbs and flows with me at least. some days it seems so thin and others so thick i can't see whats right infront of me.

so again, thank you all. i bid you all great love and light.

kundalini

[PriestOfLight]

always stay in the moment. trust your instincts.

paul

[transiten]

hello foosnik and all of you

there is this wonderful music by the swedish composer lars-erik larsson
"förklädd gud" "god in disguise" that came to me in a syncronistic moment this morning.

i was thinking i haven't listened to music lately and so lars-erik larsson popped up in my head and the second after his music was played on radio. i was crying over my stepsister that passed away some days ago and was also thinking about my mother as they mentioned "god in disguise", the very same music i played on her funeral in the only company of my relatives already "in heaven" and my dog of course...

we surely need eachother and sureley need to be alone, these are the two opposites i'm trying to balance the most in my 3d existence being both an extreme loner and socializer.

chopin was played just now, soothing pianomusic, he was born a pisces. shumann is also celebrated this year...

just heared about the earthquake in chile and peru and a tsunamiwarning has been sent it was even stronger than in haiti......

i feel so harmonius this morning, just wept over my stepsister that passed away some days ago and i felt my heart opened up and so these news...we live in a world of opposites

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[transiten]

hi

i forward the link to the music of lars-erik larsson here since it's connected to my last post, there are more on you-tube

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jgfypggqofc&feature=related

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[Happystrings]

hello foosnik and all of you

there is this wonderful music by the swedish composer lars-erik larsson
"förklädd gud" "god in disguise" that came to me in a syncronistic moment this morning.
......

just heared about the earthquake in chile and peru and a tsunamiwarning has been sent it was even stronger than in haiti......

i feel so harmonius this morning, just wept over my stepsister that passed away some days ago and i felt my heart opened up and so these news...we live in a world of opposites

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thank you for the link to the music. i too heardsabout the earthquake first thing this morning and felt a reaction in my heart, a 'sooner not later' feeling. in need of some calm i decided to drive over to the local forest preserve (chicago's cook county has a huge collection of forest preserves) to just be with a white oak tree that is 300 years old and a local favorite.

as i crunched through all the snow towhere the tree is i realized in shock that it was gone. :eek: i do not know when it died--it would have been cut down in the forest preseve--but it was totally gone, not even a stub. all that remained was the sign telling visitors about the tree and it's age.

so now, as you, two simultanious feelings, one of great sadness and one of great hope. i am struggling with the cleansing of the sadness and getting better at focusing on the hope.

[FooSnik]

hello foosnik and all of you

there is this wonderful music by the swedish composer lars-erik larsson
"förklädd gud" "god in disguise" that came to me in a syncronistic moment this morning.

i was thinking i haven't listened to music lately and so lars-erik larsson popped up in my head and the second after his music was played on radio. i was crying over my stepsister that passed away some days ago and was also thinking about my mother as they mentioned "god in disguise", the very same music i played on her funeral in the only company of my relatives already "in heaven" and my dog of course...

we surely need eachother and sureley need to be alone, these are the two opposites i'm trying to balance the most in my 3d existence being both an extreme loner and socializer.

chopin was played just now, soothing pianomusic, he was born a pisces. shumann is also celebrated this year...

just heared about the earthquake in chile and peru and a tsunamiwarning has been sent it was even stronger than in haiti......

i feel so harmonius this morning, just wept over my stepsister that passed away some days ago and i felt my heart opened up and so these news...we live in a world of opposites

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we surely need eachother and sureley need to be alone, these are the two opposites i'm trying to balance the most in my 3d existence being both an extreme loner and socializer

yes! i am too. and some people can be toxic and drain you more than anything, creating a "can't live with em and can't live without them" type of situation. so the quality of friends around you is important as well.

glad you are doing good transiten. pce :)

[happymom]

hi all,
i have been reading most of the threads on this forum for quite some time and finally got courage to ask this question:
what if you have to live 24/7 with a relative you don't like and you may not show it but you know that you want that person to leave?

to make my question more clear, my mother in law lives with us, in the past years because of her behaviour and my reaction to that we have a sour relationship. i want to forget everything and try to be normal around her , after reading all these conciousness theories , forgiveness etc, i have changed a lot from my side but she is the same. i am trying very hard to give her respect and try not to get in an argument but as it is said to further evolve we need to love others, i find it very difficult to do so with her, i am not disrespectful to her or say anything demeaning but to love her as my own mother is kinda difficult.
my question is that is it ok if i just keep a distance from her and try to be normal because she is going to be with us for a loooooong time will it be a service to self?

your openion is appreciated
thanks
happymom

[estopatitiana]

any advice on how to stay positive thru this very hard time even the weather is bad?


if you want to stay positive consider your first statement....do you notice something?

[Art]

[quote=happymom;57443]my question is that is it ok if i just keep a distance from her and try to be normal because she is going to be with us for a loooooong time will it be a service to self? /quote]

interesting question, happymom.

to begin with, you can only love your own mother as your mother. no need to hold yourself to some level and love everyone because of what is said here or there. you need to feel love, not force it.

you brought up respect which is of the utmost importance. from what i gather, you have gone to great lengths to show tolerance for someone you don't particularly like, because you love your partner. that alone should answer your question about "sto" vs. "sts"....

these things aren't as hard as people make them. when i first got involved in these discussions i was concerned about what would qualify for sto or sts, etc. the simple fact that you care and you are here is enough for me to say that you fall into the sto category (not that i am some authority figure or anything).

so, to summarize, you don't need to love her, but respecting and tolerating her, for the sake of your partner should be enough.

i hope this helps.

art

i hope this helps.

[happymom]

thanks!! art ,
that really helped, i am quite new here and to all of this stuff, i feel this forum is a gateway to express myself and to take inspiration from others.
thanks again!!
happymom

[taeko]

just let the feeling come over you and than think '' is this feeling serving me'' ? if it does than feel it aslong as you wish. if no than let the feeling sail away and think about things that makes you happy.

[kiki]

do something nice for someone else (and while you're at it do something nice for yourself too). you'll find that the act of giving can be very rewarding and you're sure to become more positive.

[Natho]

i was always synical about chakra and meditation. doin research and learning how to accomplish balance through these methods helped me greatly.

granted, there may be people who will be synical of your approach to balance, but it is not for them to understand. sometimes you need things just for you, people need to find their own way and usually a major event in life can jump start this action. dont be afraid to try new methods or to be yourself, it matters not what others say, its what you feel that matters. remember everyone has their say, ignorant or not. dont let negativity or people that use it affect your direction, its always up to you. dont be fooled by altermatums, thats just another form of control via the guilt trip.

you see, everyone is aware of how to use these things for their own benefit and if you look hard enough, you will see this on a daily basis in some form or another. open your mind and spend a day in a busy area, listen to people as they walk by, and see that these things happen all around us, even in small unoticable doses. dont listen to heavy music, i used to do this to "psyc myself up" but in reallity it makes you think you are someone you are not.

its a tricky world, but its good to see people waking up.

[ILoveCoffee]

any advice on how to stay positive thru this very hard time even the weather is bad?

it isn't easy to remain positive, but you can do little things to help improve your mood. have some coffee during the day to stimulate you...to help you do what you plan to do in the morning. also, if you can afford to, taking a multivitamin every now and then can help. if you can't do that, then i recommend vitamin water or something like that. it won't cure it, but will help.

[KnucklesUK]

what i think helps is accepting yourself, and accept anything that comes with you. i also think it helps to also work with feelings, for example, anger, and accept that feeling as it is. it seems to pass by just fine and for me i always feel back into greatness again!

be well, be strong...

knucklesuk.

[Teasy]

step 1 - breathe*
step 2 - go back to step 1 http://www.bettiesart.com/tc/smilies/smile.gif

* applies to many lifeforms, including man.

[Psion 3-K]

you have to become polarized and what i'm going to say to you may seem a bit scary. but you can handle it if you can even lay eyes on these first sentences.

do not become depolarized. doing so lets every evil consume and destroy you. choose a service to self and service to others paradigm that works for you and then go with it. but if you do not have polarity, you will be blinded by the evils of this world and it will be super painful on all levels of your trifecta. like being burned not just in body.... but in soul and mind as well.

the kinds of polarity paradigms that work are infinite. you can choose a predominantly sts path and still ascend. it's just a bit more difficult. becoming depolarized is like dropping your super high tech sunglasses when you are about to see a supernova up close. it's not worth the pain to go there and while i am not depolarized, i do a lot of light work that makes me see that depolarization is the only evil. i mean directly. i've felt the touch of depolarization and it is all encompassing. don't go there.

follow whatever works for you; ten commandments or whatnot.

[cameronjcw]

i came on here some months ago and was maybe a bit grumpy and off with some people tbh at the time i wasn't really in the best place and things did get worse after it and my daughter moved out so i've had a lot of time alone to collect my thought and been able to stay away from everyone and everything for once and properly think!

anyway i had a bit of an epiphany a couple of months ago, just came out of the blue, just happened, wasn't really thinking about changing things or making myself different in anyway and i don't actually think that i have changed at all i think i have been able to get back to the real me who was lost for such a long time, anyhoo have been a lot happier since and just wanted to share my wee epiphany and also wondered if others had had similar experiences or realizations!?

anyway here it is, ive copied and pasted it off another site i had been on at the time, was actually the noetic site. i feel really lucky to have had this sort of realization because i don't think everybody gets that opportunity, since it happened i have also cut contact with certain people and also a couple of members of my family which tbh were just toxic, they still are they are just not affecting me anymore, they really don't have the right so so why should i let them. its probably quite a hippyfied view lol which is so not like me but i just feel a lot more in touch with my real self and my emotions and am a lot more able to handle them than i have for a long time if not ever!

my epiphany about life or at least my life!

i had posted the other day because i was having a few problems understanding and dealing with things going on in my life and the way people have been acting, i read the replies and just first of all want to say thanks for those of you who did reply. :)

today i had a migraine/head pain which was turning into one of those brainbuster headaches, took my painkillers and lay down with the pillow squished around my head, my cat came up and lay down next to me on the sofa, thinking he wanted petting i did pet him a bit and told him i had a migraine and couldnt pet him much at the moment and turned around, he walked round and sat at the other side and miaowed at me as if he was talking to me. i felt like he was helping me and understood my pain. so i was talking to him and petting him and my headache started to settle down so i lay back down and was going to go for a sleep to make sure i got rid of the rest of it and i had a bit of an epiphany.

i realised that my soul and consciousness does not have inner light, it is inner light. we are all inner light and i realised that i was meant to have my cat and he was meant to be here for me and that i am surrounded by souls from many lifetimes guiding me and helping me in this life. i realised that i chose this physical body and its human experience and that i knew that it was going to be a tough one but i would learn so much from it and would help the other physical bodies around me in this lifetime. i also learned that i now know if and when it is my time to leave this physical body that if i get to choose again i would choose another hard path to be on because i know that it allows you to touch so many other souls that are in other bodies and help them to realise and remember that they also chose their path and human experience in their physical bodies.

the physical body i am in has experienced a lot of hardships and also some great experiences but i can see that the hardships are the ones that i have truly learned from and that the physical state of my current body does not matter because its just a physical body and not what i truly am although i am grateful for the use of this physical body because it has taught me so much. as i was lying down with my eyes closed realising all this i knew that the souls and spirits that guide me are always with me and were right at that moment. i could see beautiful purple shapes and images of the other souls in my head and felt that i was ready to accept my guides and for them to revel themselves to me as i am no longer afraid of them i embrace them and welcome them to continue to guide me through this lifetime and know that i will meet them again when i finally leave my current physical body.

i feel at one with the universe and now understand my role and meaning of why i am here. i am ready to face all the hardships this lifetime still has to throw at me and know that whatever happens is meant to be and that it will only serve to help my soul for the rest of this physical life and any more that will follow. i wish you all the best for this lifetime and the nextxx